The thing is, and this is a generalization, women go into a committed relationship thinking they can change tthe man.
But most men go into a committed relationship, hoping and praying the woman doesn't change
And the reality is, one person can't force the other to change, and the other person doesn't know what to do when the other changes in ways they weren't prepared for
Some get too complacent with their reationships as well
Can you please be more specific what you mean?
It is natural for people to change further into their relationships though
But love should remain the same
Yes, but if the change is detrimental to the relationship it's not fair to the other party
Get too comfortable. Lose ambition. Take things for granted. Let themselves go, etc, etc
No, I can assure you 100%, love changes
Amazing how much shorter this chat gets when you block the whiny guy complaining about women
Dude needs to touch grass
That could be used to describe some of it, yes.
It's separating yourself from your partner
For example, if you're with a person primarily because you think they look hot, you're already doomed
Human bodies deteriorate regardless of personality
For example, I am definitely not in the same shape I was in even 10 years ago
Isn’t really feasible to stay in the same exact shape
And my recent ex, she was a little hottie, though that wasn't the primary reason I got with her, she gained a lot of weight
And I was concerned about the rapid weight gain
Hee response to me was, and this is pretty exactly what she said
"Why does it matter, I'll just be fat after we have kids together"
And she also said "it's not my fault you keep feeding me"
Sounds like she wasn’t taking much accountability
Rapid weight gain could be a sign of other things as well
That's not a good way to be about a relationship
Yes, and she did have other things going on
Like I plan to have kids… but I want to get right back into shape as soon as possible after lol
For myself but also for my husband
But for me, I have some other things going on about me, and I tried to get her to exercise with me, but she would barely go on walks with me
And that's a very good mindset for you to have too
Being fit before child birth definitely helps you during pregnancy and delivery
And I told her this, I got her to take the correct women's vitamins etc
Walks aren’t very hard, should be something most could do to stay healthy
But yeah, she got lazy in the relationship
Walks are one of the best relationship builders I've ever heard of
And it's something most couples can do even into their end days
I see elderly couples walking together all the time
We love going for walks, always out and about
It's actually been proven to promote better health than running and jogging
