Iโve made it clear with her that I wonโt sleep with her and I canโt be with her
Plus her friends can tell too lol I think thereโs a reason why they tease her about me
Then stop entertaining it and stop flirting and meddling in her relationship with someone else. Whatโs the point if itโs going nowhere?
Weโre just friends and coworkers thatโs all
Clearly not just friends and coworkers ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ gotta be honest with yourself and her about it
What makes you think weโre not just friends and coworkers
The way you talk about her
I donโt see any issue with the way Iโm talking about her tbh
Yeah, sounds like more than that. She should focus less on relationships with men back to back and more on getting her life together for her kids and taking some accountability. Itโs not fair to her kids
You might not but does her current partner see it like that tho? I doubt it
Youโd definitely see a problem with how youโre talking about her if some other guy was talking to your hypothetical gf the same way you are her ๐
And this IS your original post:
So tell me again that itโs just two friends and coworkers chatting with each other?
In a way it now sounds like youโre leading her on lol. Why trying so hard to feel heroic in her world charm her and encourage emotional cheating if you already made it clear nothing can happen? Youโre both causing extra drama for each other and for her kids too who now have to listen to her and her bf fight about you. Is that just exciting to you or something ?
Platonic friends coworkers donโt touch each others shoulders arms and send emotional feelings with each other
Yeah or their hands ๐ thatโs the kind of contact people go to HR over
You might not be sleeping with each other (yet) but the attn that you give and feed off of each other is definitely flirtatious. So, not just friends colleagues
This is why some work places donโt allow workplace romance within the company
Me just thinking of a platonic friend colleague like that just gave me the shivers ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ
Theyโre def feeding off the attention. It just sounds like a huge mess and itโll end up being at the cost of her kids too because from what you said.. heโs already getting jealous about you and theyโre fighting over it when she comes home and her kids watch that happen. But as long as youโre having fun right and your ego is being inflated then all is good
So my advice is stop entertaining it and if โnothing can happenโ as you say then stop talking to her like sheโs your gf lol because thatโs how that text looksโฆsheโs taken and sheโs probably in bed with her โawful bfโ as we speak making him feel even better than sheโs made you feel. So move on and let her recently born infant child grow up with an intact family something she wasnโt able to give her other two kids
Exactly. The โgrown upsโ never really think about the kiddos and what emotional damages this may be for em ๐๐๐. I know not all parents are like this but in this case, just too many similarities with past & existing ones
Yeah, : way too common. Look into emotional cheating, Fish.
Just read what yโall said and damn it makes me look bad
Iโve never looked at it that way tbh
Honestly Iโm just a guy whoโs trying to get over his ex fiancรฉ and maybe that hurt inside me is making me hurt other people? I honestly donโt know all I know is Iโve kept my distance away from her for a while but still something inside me cares about her believe me or not I never go to her desk
She always goes to my desk to ask me about work related questions the touching parts happens every once in a while like on Thursday I was rubbing her back because she was stressed
But I donโt feel about her cheating boyfriend heโs a piece of shyt for beating her up and cheating on her
I care about her kids which Iโve met before when she brought them to work because she had no one to watch them so they definitely know who I am
I also told her I canโt be with her and I can only marry a woman from my hometown so for the record I ainโt leading her or putting expectations in her mind she knows who Iโm and the expectations
Thatโs why you came into this room. To find clarity
The same ๐ฉ thatโs been providing a roof for her and the kiddos. Again, we donโt know what goes on in her and her current partner. She did make the decision to go back to that ๐ฉ hole. And besides, why would you even think about him for? Heโs just your coworkerโs current partner. The one coworker that youโve been thinking about more than one occasion how she โaccidentallyโ or โmeant toโ touch you
You only know the parts of her relationship sheโs willing to show you tell you about which is probably the stuff that works in her favor. But her actions resemble someone who is irresponsible, not loyal herself, careless towards her own children because sheโs exposing them to unstable back to back relationships with different men and so forth. Sheโs likely as much of a problem as this bf of hers
I wasnโt talking to her like sheโs my gf idk how you got that from my text I just thanked her for being a good friend and she said Iโm her A1 from day one and I said I feel the same sheโs my friend since day one itโs not that deep tbh
No matter what happens I would like to say thank you for your help
This is such a complicated story
Because yโall truly gave me a different perspective so from the bottom of my heart thank you
Why is that woman back with someone who beats her up?
Just donโt flirt with anyone who has a partner
I might look like an asshol or maybe a horrible person but believe me Iโm a good guy with a broken heart
Apparently for a roof and for the kiddos (three of em; one of em is the ex)
Yeah, the dude is providing for 3 kids and 2 are not his. Heโs doing more than you are so whyโs she complaining so much? Shes not perfect either. If she was she wouldnโt be on her 3rd baby daddy and getting back rubs from some dude at work only to go home to her bf and get more than a back rub from him
Hi I'm looking for Serious relationship
Donโt look for her to mend your broken heart. Do your own self healing โค๏ธโ๐ฉน and let her deal with her own issues
Youโre emotionally cheating with each other. Thatโs more than a friendship ๐ฉ her bf got every right to be irritated by you as you would be by another man doing the same to your gf (when you get one)