Iāve made it clear with her that I wonāt sleep with her and I canāt be with her
Plus her friends can tell too lol I think thereās a reason why they tease her about me
Then stop entertaining it and stop flirting and meddling in her relationship with someone else. Whatās the point if itās going nowhere?
Weāre just friends and coworkers thatās all
Clearly not just friends and coworkers š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£ gotta be honest with yourself and her about it
What makes you think weāre not just friends and coworkers
The way you talk about her
I donāt see any issue with the way Iām talking about her tbh
Yeah, sounds like more than that. She should focus less on relationships with men back to back and more on getting her life together for her kids and taking some accountability. Itās not fair to her kids
You might not but does her current partner see it like that tho? I doubt it
Youād definitely see a problem with how youāre talking about her if some other guy was talking to your hypothetical gf the same way you are her š
And this IS your original post:
So tell me again that itās just two friends and coworkers chatting with each other?
In a way it now sounds like youāre leading her on lol. Why trying so hard to feel heroic in her world charm her and encourage emotional cheating if you already made it clear nothing can happen? Youāre both causing extra drama for each other and for her kids too who now have to listen to her and her bf fight about you. Is that just exciting to you or something ?
Platonic friends coworkers donāt touch each others shoulders arms and send emotional feelings with each other
Yeah or their hands š thatās the kind of contact people go to HR over
You might not be sleeping with each other (yet) but the attn that you give and feed off of each other is definitely flirtatious. So, not just friends colleagues
This is why some work places donāt allow workplace romance within the company
Me just thinking of a platonic friend colleague like that just gave me the shivers š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£
Theyāre def feeding off the attention. It just sounds like a huge mess and itāll end up being at the cost of her kids too because from what you said.. heās already getting jealous about you and theyāre fighting over it when she comes home and her kids watch that happen. But as long as youāre having fun right and your ego is being inflated then all is good
So my advice is stop entertaining it and if ānothing can happenā as you say then stop talking to her like sheās your gf lol because thatās how that text looksā¦sheās taken and sheās probably in bed with her āawful bfā as we speak making him feel even better than sheās made you feel. So move on and let her recently born infant child grow up with an intact family something she wasnāt able to give her other two kids
Exactly. The āgrown upsā never really think about the kiddos and what emotional damages this may be for em ššš. I know not all parents are like this but in this case, just too many similarities with past & existing ones
Yeah, : way too common. Look into emotional cheating, Fish.
Just read what yāall said and damn it makes me look bad
Iāve never looked at it that way tbh
Honestly Iām just a guy whoās trying to get over his ex fiancĆ© and maybe that hurt inside me is making me hurt other people? I honestly donāt know all I know is Iāve kept my distance away from her for a while but still something inside me cares about her believe me or not I never go to her desk
She always goes to my desk to ask me about work related questions the touching parts happens every once in a while like on Thursday I was rubbing her back because she was stressed
But I donāt feel about her cheating boyfriend heās a piece of shyt for beating her up and cheating on her
I care about her kids which Iāve met before when she brought them to work because she had no one to watch them so they definitely know who I am
I also told her I canāt be with her and I can only marry a woman from my hometown so for the record I aināt leading her or putting expectations in her mind she knows who Iām and the expectations
Thatās why you came into this room. To find clarity
The same š© thatās been providing a roof for her and the kiddos. Again, we donāt know what goes on in her and her current partner. She did make the decision to go back to that š© hole. And besides, why would you even think about him for? Heās just your coworkerās current partner. The one coworker that youāve been thinking about more than one occasion how she āaccidentallyā or āmeant toā touch you
You only know the parts of her relationship sheās willing to show you tell you about which is probably the stuff that works in her favor. But her actions resemble someone who is irresponsible, not loyal herself, careless towards her own children because sheās exposing them to unstable back to back relationships with different men and so forth. Sheās likely as much of a problem as this bf of hers
I wasnāt talking to her like sheās my gf idk how you got that from my text I just thanked her for being a good friend and she said Iām her A1 from day one and I said I feel the same sheās my friend since day one itās not that deep tbh
No matter what happens I would like to say thank you for your help
This is such a complicated story
Because yāall truly gave me a different perspective so from the bottom of my heart thank you
Why is that woman back with someone who beats her up?
Just donāt flirt with anyone who has a partner
I might look like an asshol or maybe a horrible person but believe me Iām a good guy with a broken heart
Apparently for a roof and for the kiddos (three of em; one of em is the ex)
Yeah, the dude is providing for 3 kids and 2 are not his. Heās doing more than you are so whyās she complaining so much? Shes not perfect either. If she was she wouldnāt be on her 3rd baby daddy and getting back rubs from some dude at work only to go home to her bf and get more than a back rub from him
Hi I'm looking for Serious relationship
Donāt look for her to mend your broken heart. Do your own self healing ā¤ļøāš©¹ and let her deal with her own issues
Youāre emotionally cheating with each other. Thatās more than a friendship š© her bf got every right to be irritated by you as you would be by another man doing the same to your gf (when you get one)
