And if no one’s told you today…you’re beautiful!
That's because you're not taking care of the kid as one you're taking care of the kid as a husband and wife not a wife husband or a husband wife
And the kids putting a wedge between you because you don't think you can do anything now that you have this kid and you can't be these certain ways because you don't want to be in a certain way in front of the kid or you don't have the time or the energy
Or it's all mental stress where can't think straight because you can't feel because all your love and your energy is going towards the kid
my mother in law and my own mother help with the kid a lot. we usually have at least 2 days a week with just me and him and we still do nothing.
i shower him with compliments and praise.
Yeah but well you're still doing nothing or something or whatever together you're still worried about the kid and you're still thinking of the future with this kid even when you're together you need to shut that off and focus on you him
Then sounds like he needs to show you he cares or you will leave
i know how important compliments are to men, especially because they are often overlooked on that level.
Yeah that’s what I think soo too
Why don't you get a piece of paper each write down what you want from each person and then hand it to each other what you're expecting from your partner
And what you're looking for in your partner and then work on that
thats a good idea krissy!
Don't say anything just look at the pieces of paper and work on those
Keep it like anonymous but see if you can change into what they're looking for if they can't speak it they can write it down
Hope everything works out for you
Like what are you expecting from me like what do you wanting me like write the questions down they answer them hand them back to you and you keep it anonymous neither one has to know nothing and then you just work on that and cross them off and see if it can get better
i do so much for him. i even quit my job to be a SAHM for him because he said childcare is more expensive than just me staying home. ive given up my individuality for him and our child. i just dont know what more to do.
Or maybe some people say spice up flip the script go back to where you were
Dont give up yourself for anyone. You will always regret it
It's not a competition of who did this and who did that
Yeah most people when they have a kid and they get in a relationship they regret it but I know people that have eight kids people that have three kids
And I know someone that was adopted by a kid had no choice to become daddy Mike
im not competing im simply stating i sacrificed things for his greater good, to make him happier. thats all
You deserve love and compliments, if he decided the relationship isn’t enough for him, then you two can co parent and you can find it else where,
Well maybe the changes are stressing him out because it's making him work harder
Maybe I'll just want it ready financially or mentally for a kid and all that brought with it
im beginning to feel that maybe i should cut my losses and just co parent as youve said. it seems we arent getting anywhere.
he has a good paying job, he works the same hours as he did when i was working.
You need someone that's into you and that's into the kid also you don't need someone that's just into you they've got to be 5050 you can't be into the wife more than the kid or the kid into the wife can't do that doesn't work that way you have to have your love for the wife and love for the kid
Maybe it will shake him out of his ways
People start to take you for granted after they got you
Yeah if you stay with somebody and you feel like you're growing more apart like branches on a tree and not growing straight up and you're branching out then you don't know each other is anymore maybe you don't have the same passion for each other
What brought you together is not there anymore and that was the foundation of what you liked about that person but that person is not that person that you started dating and that brought you together
And maybe what you married and the person that you married is probably not there and it's changed into something different and the things that made you want to marry that person or aren't there or they could be there but they're lost and they need to respark
Even friends complimented each other so why would it be hard for a partner
he didnt gain any financial stress with me quitting, it actually took the stress away from him. im not an expensive woman, i dont demand money or anything from him after quitting. so its all a bit confusing. i think we might need to take a break for awhile and see if maybe thatll show if we grew apart or we really do love and need eachother
