I think looking for red flags when you meet or start seeing someone is bad. It makes the start of a relationship about detective work on the other. Instead of looking for good things (which nobody ever says, âgreen flags,â) Everyone looks for bad from the start.
Everyone should just go with the flow, any issues arise and you can either leave or deal with them. Your life will be less stressful. đ
Anyone who starts talking about red flags, letâs say on a date, just tell them you donât believe in hunting negative.
Because, itâs like youâre expecting a problem to occur
So the whole mindset around the relationship start is negative
Itâs just destined to be doomed
Maybe they would, maybe thatâs one of their red flags. Denying red flag detection đ
I guess they arenât for you if they do. Thereâs plenty of ladies thinking the same as us, donât worry.
I guess having a mindset of red flags is the issue, I donât have any red flags in my head. Just things I agree with and things I disagree with. The level of disagreement dictates whether is stay or go.
But I donât actively have any downers in my head at the start. Or look out for them. But these days, seems like everyone is looking out for the negatives
Probably to be born good, as you wouldnât have made any evil acts đ
Messed up, clean break and no contact, I donât think you can be friends with an ex, unless you have kids with them.
Itâs not, I mean thereâs over 6 billion people here. Someone will put up with you.
People in relationships tolerate one another, they arenât matched.
Gf? Ouch dude, how do you feel about that?
I donât understand? One dimension? As in time, or space? Human will is the reason why people tolerate one another in a relationship. đ They will themselves to match with someone aligned to them, but no two people are alike. So itâs about tolerance.
I mean, maybe thereâs an element of you knowing that another c**k isnât there. But donât start thinking that you made her change to women, thatâs bad kosher for the mind. She was always that way, thereâs no other explanation. Iâm sorry to hear this happened to you.
One train of thought you mean? One dimension is a bit different, but I understand what you mean.