I think looking for red flags when you meet or start seeing someone is bad. It makes the start of a relationship about detective work on the other. Instead of looking for good things (which nobody ever says, āgreen flags,ā) Everyone looks for bad from the start.
Everyone should just go with the flow, any issues arise and you can either leave or deal with them. Your life will be less stressful. š
Anyone who starts talking about red flags, letās say on a date, just tell them you donāt believe in hunting negative.
Because, itās like youāre expecting a problem to occur
So the whole mindset around the relationship start is negative
Itās just destined to be doomed
Maybe they would, maybe thatās one of their red flags. Denying red flag detection š
I guess they arenāt for you if they do. Thereās plenty of ladies thinking the same as us, donāt worry.
I guess having a mindset of red flags is the issue, I donāt have any red flags in my head. Just things I agree with and things I disagree with. The level of disagreement dictates whether is stay or go.
But I donāt actively have any downers in my head at the start. Or look out for them. But these days, seems like everyone is looking out for the negatives
Probably to be born good, as you wouldnāt have made any evil acts š
Messed up, clean break and no contact, I donāt think you can be friends with an ex, unless you have kids with them.
Itās not, I mean thereās over 6 billion people here. Someone will put up with you.
People in relationships tolerate one another, they arenāt matched.
Gf? Ouch dude, how do you feel about that?
I donāt understand? One dimension? As in time, or space? Human will is the reason why people tolerate one another in a relationship. š They will themselves to match with someone aligned to them, but no two people are alike. So itās about tolerance.
I mean, maybe thereās an element of you knowing that another c**k isnāt there. But donāt start thinking that you made her change to women, thatās bad kosher for the mind. She was always that way, thereās no other explanation. Iām sorry to hear this happened to you.
One train of thought you mean? One dimension is a bit different, but I understand what you mean.
